Restraints – Whips and Paddles – Sensation Play
- Tips Regarding Nipple Clamps
- The technique isn’t one-size-fits-all. Nipple clamps work by clamping down onto the nipple and forcing blood flow away, similar to pinching the nipples with your fingers. Depending on the type of clamps you choose, you can experiment with the intensity of the clamping, the slackness or tightness of the chain, and other elements to find your perfect pinch.
- Take advantage of the opportunity to multitask. Nipple clamps are fun on their own, but they also offer another opportunity: hands-free nipple play. Once you attach them, you or your partner can then focus on other things such as using different toys or performing oral sex while the nipple clamps do their job.
- They aren’t just for nipples. Nipple clamps are, after all, simply clamps. They are primarily for use on the nipples, but that doesn’t mean that’s the only place that you can use them. A tweezer-type clamp, for example, can easily double as a clitoris clamp. Just remember not to leave them on for so long that they become uncomfortable or painful.
- Feel free to adjust them during play. With fluctuations in pressure and blood flow, you may want to adjust the intensity of your clamps during your session. You can experiment on your own by tugging gently on the clamps or the chain to get a feel for what works best for you. You can also try removing them at the beginning of your climax for a rush of blood to your nipples that provides a super intense sensation that many people enjoy.
What You Should Know About Bed RestraintsBed restraints are another one of the many bondage toys on the market that can help you and your partner have more fun in bed. Here are a few things that are important to know before using this type of BDSM gear.
- Talk to your partner first. Especially if using under-bed restraints is a new activity for you and your partner, sit down together first and have a discussion about what is and isn’t okay. Consider making a few different lists, such as a list of what’s off-limits and a list of things you want to try (with the agreement that you can stop at any time). Make a third list of things that are always okay. During this conversation, establish a safe word or another signal that means “stop immediately”.
- It’s not one-size-fits-all. Like the pressure of your nipple clamps, bondage sex is not the same for everyone, or even from one encounter to the next. It’s important to be flexible and listen to your partner – just because something worked with one partner or even with the same partner last time, doesn’t necessarily mean it will be okay now. This type of sex can be lighthearted and funny, kinky and serious, sadistic and disciplined, or strict and loving – so don’t feel the need to do the same thing every time.
- Check-in with your partner. You can ask, “are you okay?” now and then, but it’s just as important (and less disruptive) to look out for signs that something is amiss. You should be able to slide a finger or two easily between the restraint and your partner’s skin, and they should not be experiencing any numbness or tingling. Adjust the bonds as needed. It’s especially important to leave plenty of wiggle room if you want to place restraints around or near joints.
Common Mistakes People Make Regarding Fetish GearIf you’re new to bed bondage and other types of BDSM play, then you’ll want to do some research first and learn all you can about this exciting activity. A lot of people have made mistakes because they weren’t educated or weren’t careful enough. You can avoid being one of them by watching out for these common mistakes made by BDSM newcomers.
- Ignoring the safe word. The number one rule of BDSM is to respect the safe word. This word is the emergency escape for the restrained person. Some people become so excited that they simply ignore their partner up until their own needs are fulfilled – and this is not only wrong but dangerous. Make sure to honour the agreement that you make with your partner and stop immediately if they use the safe word.
- Trying to do too many things at once. If you try to squeeze too many different things into a single play scene, you will likely end up overwhelmed. At first, choose just one or two things to use, such as bondage tape and nipple clamps, or just one or two activities, such as Shibari bondage rope tying and forced orgasms. Aim for activities that work well together, and realise that your toys (such as bed restraints, for example) can be a part of your scene or they can be the star of the show.
- Giving up after the first mistake. If you watch a lot of movies or even pornography, you’ll see endless sex scenes where everything goes smoothly, everyone leaves happy, and nothing ever goes wrong. In real life, however, sex can be awkward or messy, especially when trying something new. Giving up after one mishap is a good way to miss out on years of kinky pleasure.